People who don’t understand the difference between punishment and discipline should, like, never have kids
hey op i dont understand the difference could you please explain?
Yeah ofc!! Sorry for being vague I was just venting and didnt expect reblogs haha
I’m gonna try to explain my point through examples.
Ex 1: toddler screaming and crying in the walmart
Punishment: I’m going to spank you or embarrass you or yell at you! Shut up! I’ll give you something to cry about!
Discipline: stop doing what you’re doing because it isn’t productive and it disturbs others as well as increasing your own upsetnes. I’m going to take you out of the environment that’s upsetting you until you’re calm and we can identify what upset you together so I can explain to you why it’s like that/help you find ways to productively express upsetness as you grow.
Ex 2: your teen is failing, like, all their classes
Punishment: you’re grounded! You’re not allowed to go out with your friends or play games or do anything fun or enjoyable until your work is satisfactory!
Discipline: it’s important to do well in school. You need to communicate with me when you are struggling so I can help you. You also need to learn to manage fun stuff and work as that’s an important life skill in adulthood. I’m going to monitor your work more closely so I can help you find that balance. And if this is a deeper mental or emotional issue, we can seek help for you together.
So basically, discipline is something you teach that requires time, communication, and sternness. Punishment is a single action meant to deliberately cause discomfort in an attempt to implement negative reinforcement. Not good.
There will be days where I will not want to continue living. I will lay in bed, wishing I didn’t exist. Wishing for a way out that does not require me to take my own life because I can not bare the thought of my mother sobbing at my casket thinking she could have stopped this. There will be days that I want to die, but I need you to know that there will also be days where I want to live. I will day dream about my future and have just a small bit of hope. I will imagine what i’ll be doing 10 years from now. Where my life will have taken me. My mind is inconsistent and will switch from suicide to living day after day. But I will be okay, because even when the world seems meaningless and gray, I know that maybe one day this feeling will pass.
